THIS IS MY STORY: After nearly 20 years, it is time to GIVE BACK!
By: Robert Paisola
Looking back on a 20 year journey that changed my life. The mistakes I made can never be undone, however being able to ADMIT to the past problems and deal with the here and now will put you on a road to success that you never imagined. 20 years ago I naively viewed child porn. I paid a harsh price, and now I dedicate every day to helping others. I am one of the lucky ones. I have recovered both emotionally and financially and now am able to assist those in similar situations. If you find yourself reading this and you have been charged with the crime of Possession of Child Porn, email me your story at robert@robertpaisola.com and I guarantee that My ability to work with you will change your life. Think of me as your consultant, for hire, to get you through this difficult process. I used to fear when people would google " Robert Paisola Child Porn " but now I am able to assist so many people. You will not find me on one single government database in the nation. I can assist you with doing the same. That is what I do. You do not have to go through this alone. That is why I am writing this article that will be published nationally. Yes, I know the system. Yes, I know what you are going through and DO NOT pay an attorney a penny until we talk. Be sure to read "The Robert Paisola Story" below and then join me on Facebook at www.Facebook.com/WesternCapital This is WHY I started my foundation.
By: Robert Paisola
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| Robert Paisola for Maxim Magazine 2015 |
I know a guy who cheats on his wife. He cheats on her every day. He cheats on her multiple times a day. He’s a husband and a father and a serial adulterer.
I shouldn't know this fact about him, but it came up in conversation a few days ago. We were talking about the divorce rate; both of us gave our theories as to why the statistics are so high. I mentioned in my diagnosis a few studies that show pornography to be a root cause in over 50 percent of divorces annually.
He laughed. “People don’t get divorced over porn.” He went on to explain that porn isn't a “big deal” to most people. It’s not “like it’s cheating or something.” He told me that he looks at it multiple times daily. His wife, he insisted, might be a little peeved if she knew the extent of it, but only because women overreact about “that kind of thing.”
What kind of thing? Their husbands spending all day obsessively plunging through the darkest regions of the internet for graphic sexual images of rape, abuse, perversion, exploitation and other forms of filthy depravity previously unknown to mankind?
Yeah. That kind of thing. No reason why any wife should be too upset about that, apparently.
Listen guys, I know this is an uncomfortable conversation. But it’s time we man up and get real about pornography. First things first: if you’re married and you look at porn, you are cheating. Period. From a Christian perspective, this can’t be debated. Christ laid it out very clearly: if you lust after another woman, you have committed adultery. When we look at porn we are choosing to succumb to that lust; we are indulging it, fertilizing it, giving it respite in our minds. We are diving into it headfirst and soaking in it like a sponge. We are lessening ourselves, betraying our wives and girlfriends and participating in the violent exploitation of women (and girls). Or minds and our bodies belong to the Lord and to our wives; pornography, therefore, intrudes on their domain. If we look at porn, we are adulterers. We are adulterers in all the worst ways.
We don’t even need to refer to Scripture to figure out the simple equation that porn equals adultery.
Why wouldn't it?
Because you aren't physically in contact with another woman?
So what? That’s merely a matter of semantics and circumstance. The absence of physical touch doesn’t automatically free you of the scarlet letter — if it did, ‘sexting’ with other women would be fair game, I suppose. How would you feel if you looked through your wife’s phone and found racy, sexually graphic text messages she’d sent to a man at her office? Would you be alright with it as long as she could prove she never had any physical contact with him? Or is that totally different because she knows the guy, whereas porn is anonymous and impersonal? See, we find ourselves constructing many arbitrary lines of distinction when we are determined to rationalize behavior we instinctively know to be immoral and wrong.
But, OK, what if she didn’t know the guy? What if she was engaging in “fantasies” with men she never met? Imagine that, in your cyber travels, you stumbled upon a porn site featuring pictures and videos of a particularly alluring young female: your wife. How would that sit with you? Your wife selling digital sex all over the internet — how would you like that? It might cause a bit of a marital dispute, wouldn't you say?
If you wouldn't want your wife being a porn provider, you ought to understand why she wouldn't want you to be a porn consumer. If you wouldn't want her to invite and encourage other men to violate her in their minds, you ought to understand why she wouldn't want you to accept the invitation to violate other women in yours.
I don’t mean to concentrate only on married men. Porn is poison for everyone, married or not. And I’m not here to castigate you if you've stumbled. We live in a society that preys upon a man’s weaknesses, shoving sex into his face at hyper speed every day, all day, all of the time. This is not excuse; just an attempt to put things into context. I won’t yell at a guy who fights a porn addiction anymore than I’d yell at a guy who fights a crack addiction. But at least the crack addict likely won’t encounter very many people (besides his dealer) who will tell him that it’s actually healthy to smoke crack. If he ventures outside of the abandoned shack where he scores his dope, he probably won’t find any respectable people who will say, “hey, crack is not a big deal — it’s totally natural to smoke crack, man!” In that way, the crack smoker has a leg up on the porn addict. The porn addict, by contrast, has to fight both the compulsion itself and the myriad of creeps who will try to convince him that it’s all just a bit of innocent fun.
That’s a lie, of course. It’s not innocent. It’s not fun.
I could cite for you the mounds of psychiatric research proving the detrimental effects of pornography on the brain. But you can do that research yourself.
I could tell you about sex slavery, human trafficking, drug abuse, and child molestation, and I could explain how the porn industry wouldn't exist without these necessary ingredients. I dove into this subject because I wanted to learn more; yo understand what went wrong in my life 20 years ago.
But these are conclusions you can draw on your own, if ever you take even a moment to think about it.
I could remind you that these women you find on your porn sites might not be women at all — they could be children — and there’s no way for you to know for sure. I could then point out that any avid porn customer has most likely at some point been a child porn customer, whether he knew it or not. But this is, indeed, an obvious and inescapable reality. And this is shocking but true.
I could tell you that many children view graphic porn for the first time before the age of 12. I could tell you that we haven’t even begun to reap the atrocious fruits that will come from an entire generation raised on the heinous perversions of internet pornography. But it’s probably too late for these warnings.
So what is left? Perhaps nothing, really. Pornography is evil, empty, deadening, dirty — this is something we all know. That’s why, unless you are either psychotic or utterly despicable, you wouldn’t want your daughter to get into the porn business. That’s why most people hide their porn habits. That’s why it still isn’t considered acceptable to browse “adult” websites at your desk at work or at a table in Starbucks (although people still do, in both scenarios). That’s why you only find porn shops and strip clubs in the slummy, rundown parts of town. No matter how hedonistic and “open minded” we become, we still recognize porn as something that ought to be stowed away in the dank, dark corners of our lives. This is Natural Law, and we can’t escape it. We have an innate understanding of right and wrong, whether we want it or not.
Married men: I think we should be spending our free time with our families, or reading interesting books so that we can sharpen our minds, or building things, or exercising, or doing anything else that will make us better men. Porn will not make you a better man. It will make you smaller. It will make you a liar. It will kill that instinct inside you that calls you to protect and honor women. It will turn you into something you never wanted to be. It will turn you into a sneaky, shameful pervert. Guys in relationships... it is the same for you
The bottom line is that I crossed the line and no matter how naive or stupid I was "as a kid" , I was held accountable. Do the right thing and do your own research and if not for yourself, do it for the ones you love. And no matter what, if you are in this position, read the links below and get in touch ASAP! My personal cell phone is 702-219-3624 (As of November 2014)
Just A Thought
Robert Paisola, Las Vegas Nevada
for Maxim Magazine 2015 I shouldn't know this fact about him, but it came up in conversation a few days ago. We were talking about the divorce rate; both of us gave our theories as to why the statistics are so high. I mentioned in my diagnosis a few studies that show pornography to be a root cause in over 50 percent of divorces annually.
He laughed. “People don’t get divorced over porn.” He went on to explain that porn isn't a “big deal” to most people. It’s not “like it’s cheating or something.” He told me that he looks at it multiple times daily. His wife, he insisted, might be a little peeved if she knew the extent of it, but only because women overreact about “that kind of thing.”
What kind of thing? Their husbands spending all day obsessively plunging through the darkest regions of the internet for graphic sexual images of rape, abuse, perversion, exploitation and other forms of filthy depravity previously unknown to mankind?
Yeah. That kind of thing. No reason why any wife should be too upset about that, apparently.
Listen guys, I know this is an uncomfortable conversation. But it’s time we man up and get real about pornography. First things first: if you’re married and you look at porn, you are cheating. Period. From a Christian perspective, this can’t be debated. Christ laid it out very clearly: if you lust after another woman, you have committed adultery. When we look at porn we are choosing to succumb to that lust; we are indulging it, fertilizing it, giving it respite in our minds. We are diving into it headfirst and soaking in it like a sponge. We are lessening ourselves, betraying our wives and girlfriends and participating in the violent exploitation of women (and girls). Or minds and our bodies belong to the Lord and to our wives; pornography, therefore, intrudes on their domain. If we look at porn, we are adulterers. We are adulterers in all the worst ways.
We don’t even need to refer to Scripture to figure out the simple equation that porn equals adultery.
Why wouldn't it?
Because you aren't physically in contact with another woman?
So what? That’s merely a matter of semantics and circumstance. The absence of physical touch doesn’t automatically free you of the scarlet letter — if it did, ‘sexting’ with other women would be fair game, I suppose. How would you feel if you looked through your wife’s phone and found racy, sexually graphic text messages she’d sent to a man at her office? Would you be alright with it as long as she could prove she never had any physical contact with him? Or is that totally different because she knows the guy, whereas porn is anonymous and impersonal? See, we find ourselves constructing many arbitrary lines of distinction when we are determined to rationalize behavior we instinctively know to be immoral and wrong.
But, OK, what if she didn’t know the guy? What if she was engaging in “fantasies” with men she never met? Imagine that, in your cyber travels, you stumbled upon a porn site featuring pictures and videos of a particularly alluring young female: your wife. How would that sit with you? Your wife selling digital sex all over the internet — how would you like that? It might cause a bit of a marital dispute, wouldn't you say?
If you wouldn't want your wife being a porn provider, you ought to understand why she wouldn't want you to be a porn consumer. If you wouldn't want her to invite and encourage other men to violate her in their minds, you ought to understand why she wouldn't want you to accept the invitation to violate other women in yours.
I don’t mean to concentrate only on married men. Porn is poison for everyone, married or not. And I’m not here to castigate you if you've stumbled. We live in a society that preys upon a man’s weaknesses, shoving sex into his face at hyper speed every day, all day, all of the time. This is not excuse; just an attempt to put things into context. I won’t yell at a guy who fights a porn addiction anymore than I’d yell at a guy who fights a crack addiction. But at least the crack addict likely won’t encounter very many people (besides his dealer) who will tell him that it’s actually healthy to smoke crack. If he ventures outside of the abandoned shack where he scores his dope, he probably won’t find any respectable people who will say, “hey, crack is not a big deal — it’s totally natural to smoke crack, man!” In that way, the crack smoker has a leg up on the porn addict. The porn addict, by contrast, has to fight both the compulsion itself and the myriad of creeps who will try to convince him that it’s all just a bit of innocent fun.
That’s a lie, of course. It’s not innocent. It’s not fun.
I could cite for you the mounds of psychiatric research proving the detrimental effects of pornography on the brain. But you can do that research yourself.
I could tell you about sex slavery, human trafficking, drug abuse, and child molestation, and I could explain how the porn industry wouldn't exist without these necessary ingredients. I dove into this subject because I wanted to learn more; yo understand what went wrong in my life 20 years ago.
But these are conclusions you can draw on your own, if ever you take even a moment to think about it.
I could remind you that these women you find on your porn sites might not be women at all — they could be children — and there’s no way for you to know for sure. I could then point out that any avid porn customer has most likely at some point been a child porn customer, whether he knew it or not. But this is, indeed, an obvious and inescapable reality. And this is shocking but true.
I could tell you that many children view graphic porn for the first time before the age of 12. I could tell you that we haven’t even begun to reap the atrocious fruits that will come from an entire generation raised on the heinous perversions of internet pornography. But it’s probably too late for these warnings.
So what is left? Perhaps nothing, really. Pornography is evil, empty, deadening, dirty — this is something we all know. That’s why, unless you are either psychotic or utterly despicable, you wouldn’t want your daughter to get into the porn business. That’s why most people hide their porn habits. That’s why it still isn’t considered acceptable to browse “adult” websites at your desk at work or at a table in Starbucks (although people still do, in both scenarios). That’s why you only find porn shops and strip clubs in the slummy, rundown parts of town. No matter how hedonistic and “open minded” we become, we still recognize porn as something that ought to be stowed away in the dank, dark corners of our lives. This is Natural Law, and we can’t escape it. We have an innate understanding of right and wrong, whether we want it or not.
Married men: I think we should be spending our free time with our families, or reading interesting books so that we can sharpen our minds, or building things, or exercising, or doing anything else that will make us better men. Porn will not make you a better man. It will make you smaller. It will make you a liar. It will kill that instinct inside you that calls you to protect and honor women. It will turn you into something you never wanted to be. It will turn you into a sneaky, shameful pervert. Guys in relationships... it is the same for you
The bottom line is that I crossed the line and no matter how naive or stupid I was "as a kid" , I was held accountable. Do the right thing and do your own research and if not for yourself, do it for the ones you love. And no matter what, if you are in this position, read the links below and get in touch ASAP! My personal cell phone is 702-219-3624 (As of November 2014)
Just A Thought
Robert Paisola, Las Vegas Nevada
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www.WesternCapitalNews.com
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Many people think that child pornography cases involving the distribution, receipt, or possession of child pornography are not that serious because these offenses do not involve an actual victim. Whereas the production of child pornography usually involves the use of actual children, the possession and distribution of child pornography do not. Most people don't realize the serious ramifications of these “sex crimes.” Even looking at or possessing on your computer or other electronic device a few photographs is a very serious crime that can carry a minimum of five years in prison in the case of a Federal Child Pornography case.
The federal code section for this offense is 18 U.S.C. 2252.
These cases are very serious even in state court today. Many counties in the state of California, for instance San Francisco and Alameda Counties, used to routinely charge these crimes as misdemeanors that carried very little jail time, if any. While a violation of California Penal Code section 311.11 (Possession of Child Pornography) and related charges were clearly viewed as less serious, they did (and do) still carry lifetime Sex Offender Registration pursuant to California Penal Code section 290. Thus, it is essential that when someone is informed that there is an active investigation into the possession of child pornography, distribution of child pornography or any other related offense, they immediately obtain the services of an experienced and skilled criminal defense attorney who specializes in dealing with Possession of Child Pornography and Distribution of Child Pornography cases.
If you have been informed of such an investigation or that Child Pornography charges have been filed, we recommend that you call us immediately
INCREASE IN CASES
The department of justice reports a 2,500 percent increase in child pornography-related arrests over the last 10 years. While there are many factors that draw everyday people to child pornography, the technological advances of the internet and the proliferation of Peer to Peer (P2P) networks have made it very easy to obtain and share or distribute child pornography, sometimes without even knowing it is happening. Anyone with a computer connected to the internet can obtain an unlimited amount of illegal images or videos with the click of a mouse.
The federal government in particular, not to mention various State of California Task Forces, are stepping up their investigations by actively conducting sting operations, pro-actively posing on or infiltrating internet chat rooms, tracking IP addresses and investigating file sharing networks. We have seen a huge proliferation of child pornography cases in Federal Court and throughout California and the United States. Along with this, the Federal Courts have imposed a significant increase in the length of prison sentences for federal defendants convicted of these types of sex offenses.
HOW INVESTIGATIONS ARE CONDUCTED
A typical child pornography investigation within a file sharing network involves the Police or FBI signing on to a P2P network, either under a fake username or by using an existing user's credentials. Once on the network, the police will browse the network and search for incriminating files.
When a P2P user downloads a file, the program places it into a “shared” folder. In addition, the user can add additional files from his or her personal collection into this shared folder so that others may gain access. Some P2P programs allow users to configure their shared folders in order to restrict what files to share and with whom. However, the FBI has developed a program called “EP2P” which allows it to see all of a user's shared files, and may even have the ability to change the shared file's settings. Suffice it to say that the government has very sophisticated methods of identifying and locating child pornography despite any precautions an individual may take.
When the FBI has identified suspected child pornography inside another user's shared folder, it will use another program to identify and track that user's IP address. All IP addresses are correlated with a physical location through an Internet Service Provider (ISP), for example AT&T. Once the IP address is obtained, they will subpoena the ISP for the owner's personal information and physical location of that IP address and obtain a search warrant to search that location. The search warrant will often include a command to search for any computer equipment, electronic media, personal papers and documents, indicia establishing that the person lives at or has access to that premises and of course any evidence of illegal material such as photos, videos, magazines or other hard copy of child pornography.
WHAT SHOULD I DO IF I AM UNDER INVESTIGATION OR HAVE BEEN ARRESTED?
1. Assert your rights.
If the FBI or police come to your door, there are two phrases you should repeat over and over: “I want an attorney” and “you do not have permission to search.” It is very important to remain silent except for the two phrases above. Do not engage in small talk or try to explain anything away. Undoubtedly, the FBI or police will try to get you to change your mind and speak with them. The Supreme Court has said that under certain circumstances investigators may even lie to you to induce you to admit you committed a crime. You must resist their tactics, whether you are innocent or guilty. If the FBI or police have a warrant, do not obstruct them but then again never consent to anything either. Remember that they are there for the sole purpose of making their case and establishing your guilt, so anything you do or say will be used against you. Their goal is to build a case and to see that you are convicted and put in prison.
If the FBI is not at your door or you have not yet been arrested, but you have reason to believe you are under investigation, you should still immediately obtain legal representation from an experienced and skilled lawyer who specializes in Possession and Distribution of Child Pornography cases. Your attorney can evaluate your case and then recommend your best course of action, whether you should cooperate with the government, to what degree, and in many cases help you avoid criminal charges before they are filed.
2. Deleting files.
Many people believe that hitting the delete button on their computer makes a file disappear forever. Some might therefore think that viewing child pornography and immediately deleting those files, internet histories, logs, and cookies will cover up any evidence of wrong-doing. In fact, deleting a file only sends it to another part of a computer's hard drive where it is stored indefinitely until it is over-written by another file. The government possesses very sophisticated computer forensic software that can recover files long after they have been deleted.
3. Get the help you need from an experienced and highly skilled lawyer.
Whether you are completely innocent or have actually viewed, possessed, distributed or even produced child pornography, it is essential that you retain the services of a highly experienced and skilled lawyer who specializes in the area of possession and distribution of child pornography or related charges. Furthermore, you must fully apprise your attorney of all relevant information related to your case so that he can fully defend you. The FBI and other federal agencies, the police, and prosecutors carry inherent biases with them. A good lawyer will investigate your case and find gaps in the evidence or mistakes in the investigation. This attorney will raise these issues with the prosecutor in an effort to get the case or certain charges dismissed or to mitigate any potential punishment.
4. Help Yourself.
There are several things you can do to help your own case. These often include submitting to a polygraph examination, collecting work and personal letters of reference and recommendation, cooperating with your attorney and assisting the attorney in the investigation of your case, submitting to a psychological evaluation or sex-offender evaluation, participating in treatment including participation in a 12-Step program for sexual addiction, sexual compulsion or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and cooperate with the attorney in any effort to obtain a forensic examination of your computer hard drive (which should be done in virtually every case). There are many potential defenses that can arise from the forensic examination of the computer, but it takes a highly skilled and savvy attorney to make sure this procedure is thorough and precise.
If you are in this situation or need help with a case like this, you should call us immediately
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